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Planning a wedding challenges even the most avid simplicity advocate. While my daughter’s upcoming wedding is being kept intentionally small, there are a lot of details to work out. Especially since it will happen four states away. Where can she get a final press on her bridal gown? What decorations can be achieved without lots of shipping or hauling ? What time should the bridesmaids meet to have time for makeup,  hair and to get dressed for photos? When will the guys meet and get ready without bumping into the ladies? Which photos can be taken ahead of time? Who will usher people to their seats? Who will guide in  latecomers after the ushers join the bridal party? How will all the transitions be handled? Who’s picking up the extra ice? How many people will drink coffee versus ice tea? Red versus white wine? Not to mention their choosing vows, various songs, special announcements.

For an event that comes only once in a lifetime and for which one’s daughter has been dreaming of forever, it seems important to be attentive to such details. And yet, to remain focused on the significance of the event. My daughter who just last week was stepping onto a school bus, and just yesterday was driving her first car and only hours ago was studying abroad and then graduating college is about to stand before God, their parents, family and friends and make an incredible promise…”to have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.” There’s nothing simple about that. So in all the detailed planning, perhaps we can set apart this special milestone in their lives in a way that is memorable and worthy of their commitment.